Who wants to flirt with me? We could relationship or not. Probably not, because I’m kind of too busy for that shit. But, I’m also just bored with only flirting with dudes for cash.*
*If you’re a dude who wants to flirt with me for cash, though, I’d still totally be into that, especially if you got super $$.
Anonymous said: Deviante help meh please! im seeing a girl who has a gf in the US (its an open relationship and she hasnt seen her gf in a year) our relationship started off as a one-night but we developed feelinngs and we call each other girlfriends. thing is, neither of us are happy with open relationships but she wont break up with her gf and i feel selfish for thinking that but i cant act like somebody's secret mistress either, it hurts. i tried to move on but it hurts
I wish there was some other way to solve this then issuing ultimatums or breaking up or other such (at least temporarily) icky things.
The alternative way to go about it I think involves a lot of hard work and maybe looks like this:
- Trying to invest time/energy/research/self-reflection around open relationships/polyamory. Is it really not for you? Is it a non-negotiable? What are your relationship non-negotiables?
- Trying to look at what is it that bothers you the most about this situation - is it the “secret mistress” aspect? Would your girlfriend be willing to “come out” about your relationship? (And does she need to come out to everyone - friends, family, other partners, or is it just certain people that matter?)
- Ask your girlfriend to engage in some of this dialogue/idea process with you. Is she willing? What amount of effort is she willing to put into keeping your relationship intact?
That isn’t any kind of easy fix, and it mostly involves you deciding what you need out of a relationship. But, even if this relationship isn’t it, at least you will know yourself and your needs better.
Anonymous said: You're against gays?
Have you looked at my tumblr at all?
“My goal is to make my own queer fierce femme realness [porn] genre versus trying to fit in with one.” (via NEW BLOG POST at QUEERFATFEMME.COM FAT SEX WEEK: Interview with Queer Porn Star Sophia St. James)