white women when you derail a conversation about uplifting, supporting, protecting, loving black girls, and black women with “All girls, all women” you are the equivalent of when men derail your conversations to say “not all men”.
Young white guys these days carry around this sense of fatalism
It’s like the world is doomed, no one will ever love me, the government can’t be trusted. They write books about it and sing songs about it and whine about it on the internet.
Listen, boys, right now, everyone is in your corner. Everyone is happy to give you second and third and a millionth chances. You’re the only ones who are innocent until proven guilty. And you clearly do - miraculously - have girlfriends and boyfriends.
But, you’re completely justified in your ominous feelings. We are coming. We will not be silenced. We will not cater to you and feed your entitled, spoiled, self-indulgence anymore. Be scared. It’s happening.
For some reason, plus size nudes are my favourite kind of nudes. I even prefer drawing curvy people. Nothing political about it, always been that way since college *shrug*
Fat bodies are always political - they are dehumanized, objectified, legislated, medicalized, and marginalized.
I love photographers and models who will step outside industry norms, but I also want them to be conscious of what they are doing and to commit to go beyond “acceptable” fat bodies (white, curvy, able bodied, small fats).
I want support for ugly girls and lazy girls and girls that can’t ever get their eyeliner right. I want feminism that includes girls who are too big or too black to be on body positive blogs.
I want girls with acne scars and girls who don’t “pass” and girls with facial hair. I want girls who are, in fact, man hating lesbians. I want poor girls.
I need the girls who never took a course in gender studies but who still know the way that society treats them is bullshit.
It doesn’t feel like a revolution when we’re only showing more of the same, when we only raise up the voices of some women.
I need to do better. We all need to do better.
There exists a sub-section of men who literally cannot sit through a discussion of structural misogyny without receiving constant and emphatic reassurance that no one is accusing them personally of being a misogynist. This is a derail and an attempt to shut down debate. Because, to quote “Sometimes, it’s just a cigar”:
“Suppose you disagree with women about whether rape is part of the structure of our society, used to reinforce patriarchy. Do you make that debate possible by standing on your wounded pride, and just insisting that the debate must start with a disclaimer that says you’re not a rapist? Forgive me, but that’s nothing more than narcissism.”
The conviction that you have never participated or been complicit in structural misogyny is dubious to say the least, no matter what your gender. But even if you are resolute that you, personally, have managed to transcend the system you were born and raised in and now stand as a shining beacon of gender equity outside the mire of patriarchy? Good for you, but structural misogyny still exists and we still need to have a conversation about it. If you think you have nothing to learn, go play elsewhere on the internet.
"Since 1980, the rate of women’s incarceration has increased 518 percent. In 1980, less than 13,000 women were in prison in the United States. By the end of 2012, that number had risen to over 108,000 (not including the 102,000 women in local jails). Women of color are disproportionately likely to be in prison: the Bureau of Justice Statistics found that black women had an imprisonment rate of nearly three times that of white women. The incarceration rate for Latinas is nearly twice that of white women." (via Dark Matter; source bitch media)
girl hate is toxic, I don’t have time or patience for girls making fun of each other’s bodies etc
But simultaneously, I get that there are rewards for doing it - that our culture loves and encourages girl hate, and the girls who do it are celebrated for it.
Those girls, though, they’re not the ones to combat. They’re trying to survive in this shit swamp of misogyny, just like the rest of us.
We can never forget what is the real enemy, where the toxins originate.
When you say your a feminist…I hope you really know what that means. It means standing up for women of color.
Standing by black women who must deal with being referred to as welfare queens or ratchet.
Being a feminist is standing beside immigrant women who deal with wage theft, unsafe working conditions, and being referred to as leaving anchor babies in America.
It means standing beside Native American women who face domestic violence and rape at unprecedented rates.
It means standing beside Muslim women who choose to live out their faith and face Islamaphobia, sexism and ignorance constantly.
It means standing beside Asian women who have been misrepresented in the media to be thought of as only submissive and quiet.
Please recognize that feminism impacts the lives of every single one of these groups…but we are all women